Viewing this website could place you in danger.
Computer use can be monitored and is impossible to completely clear searches.
Please ensure you are using a safe computer.
If you are in danger and do not have access to a safe computer, call our 24-hour crisis hotline at 636-232-2301 or call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE.
If you are at a safe computer, read below for steps to stay safe.
Steps to Stay Safe
Use a safe computer at a library or community center. This is especially important when researching escape plans. Searching for bus tickets, shelter information, housing, or classified ads on a home computer can alert your abuser and increase your risk.
If you bookmark this or any other site about domestic violence, your abuser may see your computer activity. If you can, clear all web browser cache, cookies, and history. See instructions below for reducing risks.
Instructions for Internet Explorer
1. To delete temporary internet files, cookies (cryptic bookmarks that a Website can place on your computer to acknowledge your visit) and web addresses in your history:
2. On the menu at the top of the browser window, click on Tools>Internet Options…
3. In the dialog window that opens, click on the “General” tab.
4. In the section labeled “Temporary Internet Files”, if you wish to delete all files and cookies, click on the “Delete Files…” button. A confirmation dialog will open asking if you want to delete all files in your temporary internet folder. Click “OK.”
5. If you wish to selectively delete files and cookies, click on the “Settings…” button. A dialog window will open. Click on the “View Files…” button. A window will open with a list of all your temporary internet files and cookies. You can highlight the files you wish to delete and hit the delete key or click Edit>Delete.
6. To empty the History folder, click on the “Clear History” button and then the “OK” button.
If you know a friend of loved one who is being abused, consider taking these steps:
Set up a time to talk. Try to make sure you have privacy and won’t be distracted or interrupted. Let her know you’re concerned about her safety.
Be supportive. Listen to her. It may be very hard for her to talk about the abuse. Tell her that she is not alone and that people want to help.
Offer specific help. You might say you are willing to just listen, to help her with child care, or to provide transportation, for example.
Keep in mind that you can’t “rescue” your friend. She has to be the one to decide it’s time to get help. Support her no matter what her decision.
Let your friend know that you will always be there no matter what.
Know the different warning signs of abuse.
Learn more ways to help a friend or loved one who is being abused.
Learn the secret steps to a financial escape plan.
Call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 800-799-7233 or 800-787-3224 (TDD).
for a strong, safe,
“By raising awareness we strive to prevent another family from experiencing our tragedy. Helping other families begin anew is a wonderful way to keep Mary’s memory alive”
- Sylvia Daniels, Mary’s mother
12 families empowered to transition to independent living
GOAL: To transition the women from the emergency shelter (A Safe Place) to independent living, free from violence and fear for one to two years at Mary’s House of Hope at A Safe Place. $3.5 million needed to complete the entire project.
- Ground breaking ceremony was held on March 17, 2017
- Public water and sewer installed; site preparation is complete
- Funds raised utilizing NAP tax credits a year and a half early
- $1.5 million raised to build and furnish the first home
- First four families moved into apartments Fall 2020
About the Project
For many of us, our home is the safest place we know, a personal sanctuary where we can retreat and relax. For survivors of domestic violence, though, their homes are not havens. Their homes are cocoons of fear. To escape the abuse, women and men, and their children, need a comprehensive program of education, therapy and counseling, court advocacy, and above all, a secure environment.
They need A Safe Place.
Our residential program is the only emergency shelter for domestic violence in Jefferson County. Serving the greater St. Louis area and surrounding counties, A Safe Place provides services to meet the immediate needs of domestic violence survivors including physical, sexual, emotional, verbal, psychological, or the destruction of property or pets.
While staying at A Safe Place, survivors learn to break the cycle of violence through individual counseling, support groups, education, and comprehensive parenting, fitness, and wellness programs. Over time and through work with a variety of providers,residents replace their feelings of dependency with self-sufficiency. They learn to build their self-esteem, and work on assertiveness, communication and decision-making skills. They receive assistance with nutrition, budgeting, housing options, job searches, and career planning, in addition to full primary care, dental care, and mental health services. Because every resident is unique, we offer individualized plans that coordinate all services, providing the optimal opportunity for each person to be restored to wholeness.
Adults aren’t the only victims of domestic violence. Children who grow up in abusive homes frequently learn violence as an acceptable means of resolving conflict and exerting control. These children are more likely to become victims or perpetrators as adults. A Safe Place offers assistance to these youngest survivors through counseling, recreational activities, child play therapy, and art therapy. A Safe Place also offers a Pet Protection Program to ensure domestic animal safety.
A Safe Place empowers residents and their children to rise above the pain of domestic abuse and begin a new, safer and healthier life, where they can transform from victim to survivor.
Mary’s loved ones hope her story doesn’t end with just the conviction and imprisonment of her abuser. Mary Daniels meant so much more than a court order and a trial, and they hope her life and tragic death serves as a catalyst to help others in need.
Mary Daniels lived for years with an abusive husband. She suffered in silence, her fear keeping her behind closed doors and away from those who loved her. Finally, this warm, loving and dedicated mother, daughter, sister and friend, was determined to improve her life and the lives of her two children. She and daughter Lexi, 10, and son Brody, 5, left her abuser and secured a restraining order against him. The restraining order wasn’t enough. Mary’s estranged husband waited for her outside of her work on August 3, 2010, and brutally stabbed her multiple times. She was 30 years old.
After her murder, Mary’s friends and family learned of the great need for additional safe housing for women and children escaping violence. They learned about the need for more awareness and education about domestic violence. Then, they turned their grief into action. They partnered with COMTREA to raise the funds necessary to begin building a transitional housing complex to provide survivors with affordable housing when leaving A Safe Place emergency shelter.
This safe house will be the final, transitional step after the shelter of A Safe Place. Named Mary’s House of Hope at A Safe Place, the transitional housing is another step to save women suffering in abusive relationships from the same fate as Mary Daniels.
The man who killed Mary was convicted on November 9, 2011, of first degree murder and armed criminal action. He was sentenced on December 9 of that year to two life terms without the possibility of parole.
Mary Daniels was a woman from Hillsboro killed by her estranged husband in 2010. Mary’s family, friends, and supporters have raised over $100,000 for this project.
COMTREA will own and manage the facility. Mary’s House of Hope is being constructed on property adjacent to COMTREA’s A Safe Place.
Each house consists of four units (one single bedroom unit, two 2 bedroom units, and one 3 bedroom unit). When all three houses are completed, there will be four one bedroom units, eight 2 bedroom units, and four 3 bedroom units (total of 12 units). In addition, there will be two multipurpose rooms. A playground is adjacent to the housing facilities.
A family can remain in a unit for up to two years. Residents will receive an individualized plan of action towards sustainable living, with staff oversight on measurable progress.
Donor recognition levels range from $1 to over $250,000. Donors will be acknowledged on COMTREA’s virtual donor wall. Additional donor recognition is dependent on amount of gift.
The first housing is near completion and we are continuing the campaign to raise funds for the remaining two units.
We are a tax exempt 501(C)3 organization and contributions are deductible to the extent of the law (please consult advisor).
Our Circle of Hope program supports sustainable funding of Mary’s House of Hope at A Safe Place. These homes will continue to give hope far into the future. As each woman moves on to her own house, empowered and able to sustain herself and her family, the unit will be refreshed for another survivor looking to secure their independence.
Sewer and Electric
Parking Lot and Road Built
Framework of First Building
Furnish First Home
Circle of Hope
Mary's House of Hope at A Safe Place works to restore dignity, hope, and independence to survivors of domestic violence.
Through gifts of support, you can empower families as they strive to build a safe, healthy, and financially independent future that is free from violence.
Your gift to the Circle of Hope program supports operational costs for Mary's House of Hope at A Safe Place. These homes will continue to give hope far into the future. As each woman moves on to her own house, empowered and able to sustain herself and her family, the unit will be refreshed for another survivor looking to secure their independence.
Mary's Friends (Fund living expenses)
Monthly & One-Time Donations
Mary's circle (sponsor a Family)
$700 monthly (1-bedroom unit)
$800 monthly (2-bedroom unit)
$1,000 monthly (3-bedroom unit)
$1,250 monthly (3-bedroom unit and living expenses)
$2,083 monthly (Two 2-bedroom units and living expenses)
build hope For Survivors
Mary's House of Hope at A Safe Place is supported by financial gifts, grants, volunteer time and services, and donations of supplies. Donations are tax deductible to the extent of the law.